Grieving the Relationship
I found this to be an inspired, meticulous and empathetic detailing of the grief experience. Truly amazing. ~Invicta Author: nickyskye Subject: grieving a N My heart goes out to you in your recovery....
View ArticleFrom the Child of A Narcissist
From the child of a pathological narcissist: Surviving Narcissus In those quiet moments When the world slipped away... I believed. Quiet passion, breath, lips to skin. I believed in my creation Which...
View ArticleUnfailing Love
Unfailing Love Love can fail, and we must know it can fail. For if love was always reciprocated, how could there ever be sincere love? Rather, every person retains his free will. No matter how strong...
View ArticleMyth of Borderline
Very controversial.Unplugging Borderline Personality DisorderI find mythologising pretty rampant on the internet. And Real Life is no exception. When I was in graduate school, the prof I esteemed most,...
View ArticlePathologizing the Victim: Codependency Facts
Codependency? I am strongly opposed to the notion of co-dependency, especially in relation to survivors of abuse. My view is that human beings are interdependent. "Co-dependence", it seems, is all...
View ArticleRecovery Signposts
Indicators of Recovering Reclaiming and renewing yourself does not happen quickly, nor in any measurable way except that which you are mindful of. It takes enormous courage and determination, and time...
View ArticleHEALING: Leaving the Net
Leaving the InternetI suppose it is hard to understand why anyone would actually want to give up dealing with narcissism and psychopathy, especially when all the accumulated experience and knowledge...
View ArticlePUSH: Letting Go
How's that for a contradiction in terms?thegiven, as a long term survivor, has written a wise article on what it means to hope and pray, and to let go and let things and life be. ~Invicta 10/03PUSH...
View ArticleForgiveness
Forgiveness is something you can't really DO, that is, WILL. It comes, as healing comes- it is given to you. But in a most surprising way! Healing Is Forgiveness Manifested In the aftermath of my...
View ArticleWays To Healing
(Article based on my experience) You begin in shock. In disbelief. You may suffer from Post Traumatic Stress (I did). As you are beginning to re-remember, the feelings are going to be overwhelming....
View ArticleObsession
~obsession~ I've written about this to some extent in "A Soul with No Footprints". People tend to look upon continuous, seemingly circular thinking about the abusive/disordered ex or soon-to-be ex as...
View ArticleA Soul With No Footprints
* Narcissism is considered a less severe form of psychopathy. This opinion piece arises from my experiences in several support groups and the concerns that survivors bring to them and how those...
View ArticleSurviving Emotional Abuse
Whatever kind of abuse, whether physical, or persistent, insidious psychological and emotional abuse, you are not to blame! ~Invicta, MA, 09/02 SHRAPNEL By Lily DeVilliers One of the real problems that...
View ArticleHealing Facts
Over the past year, I've discovered that the path of healing is singular for everyone. This article fits my experience and what I have observed in others; it also strengthens that conviction, that we...
View ArticleThe Trap
Imagine this.... You've been invited to a party, but you realize on the day you're pretty sure the party is happening that you're not sure what kind of party it is or what time you should arrive....
View ArticleOnline "Help" To Avoid
November 18, 2009When Victims Prey on VictimsThe internet is an excellent place to make lots of money.Over the years on the internet, I've noticed that the narcissism "business" has flourished by leaps...
View ArticleSites To Avoid
The Buddha said, Do not believe anything on the mere authority of teachers or priests. Accept as true and as the guide to your life only that which accords with your own reason and experience, after...
View ArticleMission: Help Yourself (Archive)
Welcome To Our World This is a place for healing; a place for binding your wounds while binding the wounds of others. It all starts with questions, whether moral/spiritual/existential or practical,...
View ArticleWELCOME HOME
Free: Cleckley's "Mask of Sanity"(Pdf format) Survivors Speak "To my experience, a favored technique for Narcissists is to debilitate your identity [personally, I hate the term self-esteem] by...
View ArticleLoving Narcissists and the Myth of No Contact
November 18, 2009I think that the exhortation of "no contact" with the narcissist, although rightful in its claim, loses something in the execution. If you begin with "no contact" as a strategy or...
View ArticleAfterlife Without Narcissists
January 8, 2010Someone, a long while ago asked what my life was like now, in the aftermath of the aftermath.Actually there isn't much to say, because in my day to day life, I don't think about it.If...
View ArticleKnow Your Limits
December 5, 2011 Where to begin? After 20 years I went back to visit my mother, a year and a half after my father died. Within the last ten years, my parents couldn't find me. Were my parents...
View ArticleTen Ways to Freedom from Narcissists
November 3, 2009 Once in a while, someone writes to me for advice. I do not counsel over the net. But the issues that come up are usually the same ones over and over again because disordered...
View ArticleBlaming Victim: Codependency Model
"When the term chemical dependent emerged as the new label for both alcoholics and drug addicts, the term codependent was coined to describe their partners (Beattie 1989; Bradshaw 1988; Cermak 1986;...
View ArticleConscience Continuum: Paranoid-Narcissism Spectrum
Narcissism is a somewhat less severe form of psychopathy. "It manifests aggressive, paranoid, and borderline characteristics, but more commonly appears in the form of envy, greed, power lust, an...
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